When it comes to setting yourself up a online hook up, how safe do you feel?
After all, in most cases you are inviting a TOTAL STRANGER in to your home. Fair enough, you’ve seen a guy’s picture online and you’ve had a brief chinwag, but that doesn’t mean that you know who you are actually talking to. For all you know they could be a psycho loon with murder on their minds.
This summer, several stories hit headlines that provided a stark reminder that it is pretty risky to meet people online.
In Manchester, a 21 year old was recently arrested on suspicion of robbery and two assaults after three attempted carjackings in Manchester. Each of the victims were targeted after arranging to meet someone on Grindr, police revealed. In London, one man died after he was drugged by a Grindr-hook up who proceeded to rob the house he was looking after. The death was subsequently linked to the rape and robbery of another man in Walthamstow five days earlier.
So how cautious are you when it comes to welcoming guys into your house.
One Grindr-user, who spoke to GuysLikeU anonymously, admits that he has never thought twice about letting hook ups pop over to his home. “Call me foolish, but I have never worried about who I’ve invited round,” he says. “I like to think I am good judge of character and after a good chat on the phone I think I can gauge what someone is going to be like. And to be honest, I have been lucky. Every guy I have met has been great. I may not have seen them again, but most of them have been pretty alright guys.”
However, the user does admit that the recent spate of stories has touched a nerve. “Of course, reading stories like the ones that have been in the press recently have made me much more wary,” he says. “If you think about it, what do we actually know about these people? We only take in what they tell us. Who’s to say they aren’t some kind of knife wielding maniac? But call me stupid, I put that thought to the back of my head when I’m drunk and horny.”
So how can you stay safe using dating apps. Here are some ways to ensure you survive the night in one piece.
1) Find out their real name.
When you’re chatting to some spunk, ask for their Facebook or Instagram profiles – this way, you should be able to tell if they are legit or not by checking what they post. If there are three posts on Insta, then maybe they aren’t being honest…. And if all they post is pictures of cats, then alarm bells should be ringing. Loudly.
2) Get their number
Ask for their number and do what people used to do – have a chat on the phone. That way you can work out more about them from the conversation you have. If you hear slamming gates and and men calling out ‘lights out’, then it’s a fair bet your fella is in the slammer. Also, most people have a picture and a real name on WhatsApp.