Writing exclusively for GuysLikeU, Austin Armacost announces that he and husband Jake are separating.
Never did I think the time would come for Jake and I to part ways. Unfortunately, it is with an extremely heavy heart I acknowledge that Jake and I are splitting up. Will we get back together? Will this just be a temporary split? These are questions that only time will answer.
I want to firstly thank Jake for being an amazing man and amazing husband. Through the darkest times in my life he has always been there. Burying my brother, losing my mom to prison for two and a half years, dealing with the emotional outfall of all of that, he has been right there by my side giving me the support I needed. He is an incredible man and I wish him nothing but happiness.
We first met when we were 20, now, almost a decade later we have just become two different people with two different ideas of what we want from life. The hardest part for me is to know of the young gay couples who looked up to us and thought ‘if they can do it, I can do it.’ I always wanted to be the example of unity, and solidarity and as we became the face of a movement, now that is melting away.
I fought so hard to be able to call him my husband here in America, and although I a so proud of all the work I have done, it feels a bit ‘all for nothing.’ They say that hindsight is 20/20, but I will never regret the work I did for the LGBT community and still encourage EVERYBODY in this community to live respectable, monogamous, long, happy lives and relationships.
I have spoken at length with my in laws about this, and our relationship will not change. I am godfather to two of my nephews and I will continue to be in their lives. My in-laws, also amazing people, have always been there for me through the dark times in my life. Supported me, stood by me, and encouraged me to take those experience and grow into a better person.
I love my British family to death, and nothing will change that. Jake is very aware that I will still be. A huge presence in their lives. Luckily, things are amicable, and possibly in the future if we can reconcile our differences, either one of us has eliminated the possibility of getting back together.
I wish Jake nothing but happiness in his life. I want him to smile, laugh, live and love! What does the future hold for me? Never know. I am in no rush at all to download any dating apps or meet anybody. If somethings comes along, let it be. I am not out searching.